“I wore a vibrator in public for a day and let my partner control it.”

My husband and I love sex toys. It’s not that our sex life is lacking without them, but they add an extra layer of excitement to our already great sex life. And, honestly, once you add a vibrator to the mix, your partner gets a lot of help reaching orgasm, so the pressure is off their shoulders, which is a good thing, especially for women who struggle to orgasm during sex.

Recently, my husband and I got a Lanmeier Queen. If you haven’t heard of it yet, it’s a true breakthrough in sex toys. Not only does it fit perfectly, it comes with a remote for easy use at home, and best of all, it syncs with your phone. What does that mean? Your partner can control the speed and intensity of your use of the Queen from anywhere in the world. I know! I was equally confused, skeptical, and even amazed. So, my husband and I decided to test it out.

We started by playing with the remote. It was Saturday morning, so why not start the day right? I stayed in the bedroom playing with the vibrator, and he stayed in the kitchen playing with the remote. It was really fun and exciting, but with the app, the distance between us would have been even greater, so we had to take it a step further.

It took us a while to figure out how to sync our phone with the vibrator. It wasn’t difficult; just follow the instructions in the box or through the website app. But we finally got it done! So, it was time to officially get the party started.

After confirming my husband’s control of the vibrator on the first floor of our apartment (we lived on the fifth), I ventured out to run errands. I clipped the vibrator in place, put on a pair of tight yoga pants for better support, and went to pick up the dry cleaning. As I reached for my wallet to pay, my husband turned on the vibrator in the back of the apartment. I immediately panicked. Could they hear that faint buzzing sound? Was my crotch visibly vibrating? Did they notice my blush?

To calm my nerves, I immediately misidentified the vibrating sound as my phone. I was sure they couldn’t hear it, but you know, nerves are a pain I have to endure, so I excitedly searched through my bag, pretending to look for my phone. My behavior was very exaggerated and unnecessary. Fortunately, my husband turned off the vibrator, and I calmed down a little, but my little garden was completely wet!

Next, I went to the drugstore to buy some things. Of course, halfway through, I turned the vibrator on and off, back on and off again. So I had to walk carefully to avoid pulling the vibrator out of my vagina. At this stage of the experiment, the streets were deserted, so I could enjoy it even more. I felt like I had a secret; a wonderful secret. Not only did I feel like I was having sex, but I also felt a wonderful vulnerability. The thought of my husband at home enjoying this game just like me, just in a different way, made my blood boil.

While I enjoyed wandering around and adding excitement and surprises to my life, I knew the best way to truly enjoy it was to go to a bar and sit down for a drink. I knew that sitting down, without worrying about the vibrator dangling from my yoga pants, would allow me to enjoy it more relaxedly… and it did. Oh, it was amazing. It wasn’t an orgasm, because I don’t think I could relax enough to orgasm in public, but it was a good feeling, and with my husband in control, the surprise was one of the best parts.

After a while, I decided to go home, my vibrator buzzing the whole way because, as I later discovered, he’d thought it was off, but it wasn’t. Clearly, this was something we both needed to improve on. He needed to learn how to use the app better, and I needed to learn to relax.

The payoff? It’s been fantastic! Bringing my bedroom toys out to the street feels liberating and exciting, even if I might be a little uncomfortable. I know we won’t make using the Lanmeier Queen a habit, but it’s definitely been a fun experiment. My husband is from London, and we’ve been apart for a while, so sex toys like this have helped our long-distance relationship feel less distant. The sense of sexual connection this toy creates is unlike many other toys I’ve experienced.

I personally believe that the best sex toys are those that can be used equally by both partners. The Lanmeier Queen is a perfect example of this. Everyone deserves a happy and healthy sex life, and an app and remote-controlled orgasm are the path to that goal.